Frequently Asked Questions
What is Fire & Ice?
Fire & Ice is Canberra's only public BDSM, Fetish and Kink party (18yrs +). Our play parties are for open minded kinksters and non-kinksters (‘nillas) alike, to indulge secret fantasies, release pent up frustrations of day to day life or relish in the power exchange that can be found in BDSM. Fire & Ice is not a sex party. It doesn’t matter how you identify, your gender or your orientation, Fire & ice is a safe play space in a friendly, relaxed environment where you can check out the scene and find your kink!
We have all been there…the first kink party, the first time at Fire & Ice, new to the BDSM scene. It can be daunting but it is so rewarding to push through any nerves and come along.
What can you expect at Fire & Ice:
You will get to socialise with lots of kinksters in fun, relaxed, and safe atmosphere.
You will get to watch play. Probably some very cool and fascinating (and hot) play.
You will get to see a lot of amazing outfits - elaborate fetish wear isn't necessary, but it's nice to dress up a little. A little black dress, a tight black t-shirt and well-fitted kilt or trousers will do fine for many new to the party.
Fire & Ice is a play party and, for many people new to the scene, the operative word in "play party" is party. No matter how well the night goes for you, a lot of your time will be spent hanging out and socialising with kinky folks. Enjoy it, learn from it, and just relax in it. Don't expect to get all your fantasies fulfilled your first time out and don't spend the party stressing about how "much" you're going to "get."
Just want to know more – come along to the meet and greet before the party.
New to Fire & Ice, Canberra kink community or BDSM?
At Fire & Ice we know that it can be daunting coming to your first event – so we offer a meet and greet session hosted by the Fire & Ice crew at the venue before each party. The meet and greet gives those new to the scene or Fire & Ice a chance to get to know a few faces before the night begins, as well as an opportunity to learn a trick or two about BDSM before diving in as the lights go down.
To attend a meet and greet, you MUST purchase your event ticket and then register to secure the free meet and greet ticket (limited spots). No ticket means no entry. There are no meet and greet tickets available at the door.
How do I buy tickets to Fire & Ice events?
Tickets to Fire & Ice events are available through Sticky Tickets (https://www.stickytickets.com.au/). All event postings will include a link to the tickets or you can search for ‘Fire & Ice’ on Sticky Tickets. Tickets are sold online and, if not sold out, there will be limited tickets at the door.
What is a Dungeon Monitor?
Not only do we get to teach, show, grow the Canberra kinky community – Fire & Ice must look after the kinksters at our parties and events. We do this through our amazing Dungeon Monitors (DMs)
DMs are volunteers who are dedicated to ensuring the safety and security of all those who attend Fire & Ice events. Our DMs are active members of the Canberra BDSM kink community who take on this role to support Fire & Ice and the community.
At events, DMs are identifiable by neon armbands. DMs on duty will also be wearing a neon vest, making it easy to spot them quickly. They may be any sex and any role (dominant, submissive, switch, little etc). Whilst they are on duty their authority is absolute. Our DMs will make sure that Fire & Ice rules are complied with, creating a safe space for the attendees. DMs represent Fire & Ice and will assist kinksters to enjoy the party.
What does a Dungeon Monitor (DM) do?
DMs are a good source of knowledge about the rules and BDSM in general. Feel free to ask them questions but also be aware they will be watching the play and everything going on, so may be a little distracted.
Help keep people safe at the event.
Foster an environment where people can have a good time.
Remind people of the rules, clarify them as needed, and enforce them if necessary.
Answer questions, as best as they can.
Assist kinksters, when asked, if they’re able.
Ask kinksters for information, clarification, or status if they see something that needs DM attention.
Stay visible and available.
DMs won’t interrupt a scene without a good reason. (And DMs decide what is a good reason.)
How not to attract the attention of a DM?
Stay out of other people’s scenes. Don’t interrupt someone’s scene.
If you are concerned about someone else’s play, tell a DM and let them handle it. That’s what they are there for.
Tell the DMs before you start anything that is edgy, risky, loud or potentially upsetting to others. If you tell a DM in advance, they won’t have to interrupt to check in. They can also keep others from interrupting your scene.
Fire & Ice is proud of our DMs and the effort and time they contribute to Fire & Ice and the community.
Remember “YKINMK”: Your Kink Is Not My Kink. If you see something that you think is unsafe or non-consensual, tell a DM. If you see something that is disturbing, scary, or too edgy, tell a DM… but then move away from that scene. Know what triggers you, and avoid it whenever possible.
If you want to leave a comment, question, compliment, complaint about our DMs please contact
Where is Fire & Ice held?
Fire & Ice is held at The Basement, 2 Cohen Street Belconnen. We have the whole venue and can offer a private and safe place for people to have fun and play.
Is there a dress code?
Fire & Ice aims to be inclusive whilst encouraging everyone to dress the part. Dressing the part aims to enhance the atmosphere. The minimum dress code is basic black, definitely no blue jeans. If you are not sure what to wear have a look through the photos for some amazing examples. We encourage you to dress in the theme of the evening. However, if there is no effort then don’t be disappointed when there is no entry. There is a cloak room available at the venue.
What are the photography rules?
Fire & Ice has strict photography rules. These are in place for a very good reason. Please understand that some members of our community would prefer to retain a level of discretion and privacy – and we will respect that privacy. The only photography taken at Fire & Ice will be by Brett from D-eye Photography.
D-eye will not take any pictures of anyone on premises without their express permission. Please be aware that pictures from the night will be posted to the Fire & Ice Canberra Facebook (closed) group, public Facebook page and our website.
Personal photos (including selfies and snapchat) are NOT ALLOWED within the venue. If you want pics of your sexy group of friends or scene, ask D-eye who will be more than happy to snap a few shots. Do not be offended if we ask you to leave if you do not follow the rules.
What are the rules at Fire & Ice?
We are a fun bunch at Fire & Ice, however a few simple rules keep us safe and full of endorphins.
As with any event, attendance and/or the way someone is dressed is not consent. Do not interrupt or attempt to join in on a scene/play unless specifically invited to. Do not touch or harass other. Fire & Ice is all-inclusive of any fetish and sexuality, any discriminatory or bigoted behaviour will not be tolerated.
As Fire & Ice is held in a licenced venue, no pink bits, no body fluid, no penetration.
• Strictly and Over 18 event – no ID, no entry
• Dress code applies – No effort – no entry
• Dungeon Monitors will be there to keep an eye on the activities throughout the night. They are easily identifiable with flour arm bands and hi-vis vests. Please listen to what they have to say, and respect any decision they may make regarding safety and conduct
• This is not a pick up joint. Please respect others’ personal space
• Do not interrupt another person’s scene. If you feel unsafe practices are happening, please see a member of the Fire & Ice Crew immediately
• If you’re too drunk to drive, you’re too drunk to play. Please consider this before picking up a flogger or donating your skin. If you prefer to have a drink then go for it, just sit back and enjoy the shows around you
• Accidents happen – if you break something, let one of the Fire & Ice Crew know about it so others aren’t using unsafe equipment
• If you do indulge in play, make sure you clean up after yourself. There will be cleaning supplies located near each play space
• Don’t hog equipment or toys – make sure to let others have a go too
• Full nudity is (sadly) not allowed. Please keep your pink bits (being anything underwear would cover) covered
• This is not a sex on premises event. Save it for when you get home
If any of these rules are broken, you will be immediately asked to leave – no exceptions. It may seem like a lot to take in, but this is just to ensure the safety and security of all attendees, and the potential for keeping the events coming in the future.